Jul
29,
2021

Learning how to Coach in English ("Brilliant Coaching", Day4), Our Ego

Putting someone under control?
Hello everyone!

I am an executive coach supporting and encouraging people who work in companies or organizations.

I will continue to put a couple of key points about coaching at work while reading the book titled "Brilliant Coaching" by Julie Starr.


Chapter 4. How does our "ego" limit our ability to coach

- Our "ego" in this context means natural urge to retain a sense of control during the conversation, for example to solve the problem or know the answer.

- Your ego is your sense of identity that comes from your mind's tendency to create a concept of who you are (and who you are not). In other words, it is a kind of perception that your mind has constructed over time and now you accept them, often without question.

- In common use of the term, 'ego' is used to describe an attribute of someone who appears arrogant or overconfident.

- Challenge your own assumptions / Don't believe everything you think

- To coach effectively, the influence of your personal opinions, assumptions and values must be reduced in a conversation.

- Stay in a neutral posture and don't react to the critical nature

- I am not saying that as a coach, you must ignore your own views, judgements and values, only that as you stay detached from your own opinion, you can stay with the purpose of the conversation, which is to help someone think for themselves.

- A coaching conversation aims to elicit someone's inquiry into a situation, and that requires a clear focus on them.

That's all for today. See you tomorrow!
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