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Sometimes I wake up in the middle of the night and can’t get back to sleep. My mind is presenting some things, probably from the sub-conscious where some things are stored. I experience the same thing while I am meditating.

I keep a pad and good pen on the nightstand to capture.

Recently, I promised myself to limit myself to less than 10 minutes of news (in any form) before noon and a 10 minute limit in the afternoon before 5:00 PM. (from all sources combined).

A wonderful word, “Kaizen” came up this week. Kaizen is a Japanese business philosophy of continuous improvement of working practices.

I think of those subjects, when I started, I was afraid, terrified even clumsy, and this Kaizen I became somewhat proficient and loved it, speaking, writing, running, climbing, swimming, teaching, the limit continues.

Once I gained some proficiency, I loved it!

That’s the pay value of Kaizen, just don’t quit.

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7x24 OF BLISS?

My boat partner, on his airplane trip home to America from India where he had been studying meditation, sent me a hand-written message, “After searching in seminars, reading, speakers, I have become aware, “All happiness is already available to me in the Serenity Prayer.” “God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference.”

Epictetus the Stoic Greek Philosopher said on a similar subject, “Freedom is the only worthy goal in life, it is won by disregarding things that are beyond our control.”

Before I learned the following, “If I can’t learn to master my thinking, I am in deep trouble forever.” I had accepted that my mind controls my life.

To some extent, my mind influences my health, my prosperity, my happiness and every aspect of my life.

When I learned to focus on love, good health, compassion, happiness and helping others through study and meditation there was a reduction in or elimination of stress, worry, anger and resentment.

I realized I could have 7x24 of bliss, and I find that appealing.

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Was talking to a friend after our morning workout this morning.

He volunteered that he wants to lose 25 lbs, I, 14 pounds. I weighed myself after the conversation and it is 16 pounds.

I suggested that after what we had been thru, that puny weight loss goals were easily attainable.

When I started running at age 42, I set myself the goal of running a marathon in one year. I bought a training schedule that would take me one year to prepare. It included losing 50 pounds, which I did.

Ran my last marathon, number 55 at age 80 and retired from running.

After a layoff of almost 8 years, I set myself a goal of running a half marathon at age 90.

I went to an indoor track in the club where I work out 5 days a week.

Best, I could do was shuffle 5 steps. Within 6 days I could do 15 steps, shuffle, slow trot, then walk, then shuffle a few steps, etc.

Which brings me to the stoic philosopher, “if you can’t learn to master thinking, you are in deep trouble forever.”

Whether it was alcohol, tobacco, 50 pounds, 26.2 miles, 385 yards, losing all of our money and borrowing $75 from our 16 year old daughter for groceries, every week, I knew I could master my thinking before; many times, I could probably do it again.

If I can’t learn to master my thinking, I am in deep trouble.

Forever is the same for all of us, it is today.

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A great quote: “Freedom is the only worthy goal in life.”

It is won by disregarding those things that are beyond my control.

A variation of this is The Serenity Prayer, “God Grant Me The Serenity To Accept The Things I Can Not Change”, etc.

When I found a note to myself, “If you can’t learn to master your thinking you are in deep trouble, forever.”

I came out after my workout this morning, and it was raining. Someone asked me, “How do you like the rain? The first rain in many days.” I replied, “I love it, even though I didn’t have a raincoat.” I added, “I love Seattle weather, there is no such thing as bad weather in Seattle, there is only inadequate clothing.”

Happiness is not a function of circumstances, it’s a function of my outlook on life.

When I say I am having a great day, I am having a great day.

The only way I’ve found to have a great day is by controlling my thinking and that way is to meditate.

The only way I have learned to control my thinking is through meditation, and I have done it successfully, but, I had to practice it. It took time to learn it, and I have.

Consistent of one of my goals, to never make anything “a big deal”, ever again.

Nothing has ever been accomplished by “making it a big deal”. My objective is to stop catastrophizing which could be predicting a negative outcome or jumping to the conclusion that if the negative outcome did in fact happen, it would be a catastrophe.

Up until now, I have been able to work thru every challenge with the help of “a consultant, coach, or mostly one of our children or their spouse.”

Job, number one, stop making it a “big deal” so I can have a pleasant trip through this vale of joy.”

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I keep looking, every day, for inspiration. Something is beautiful or just plain inspiring on kindness in action.

The Dalai Lama and his co-author Dr. Howard Cutler, in the book, “The Art of Happiness” have convinced me that an objective of life is to be happy.

I started my week on Monday, talking to Jeff early on Monday morning.

Jeff explained that he had a wonderful weekend. He went on to explain that it was his 61st birthday just this past weekend.

I asked, “Did you celebrate?” he told me, “Yes, I went for a 100 mile bike ride, it was my present to myself. It took 6 ½ hours. I felt wonderful after that birthday gift to myself”.

I felt inspired and happy hearing Jeff share his birthday with me.

I am surrounded by a wonderful, loving family, who enjoy heaping love on me, they serve the wonderful barbecue, or something equally delicious, followed by cookies and cheesecake; on Father’s Day, it was cake with rich frosting about one inch thick, with assorted berries on top, and of course there is much left over and I eat more for dessert for days, with the corresponding increase in my weight.

What would it be like to pattern my birthday after Jeff with some activity, and then top it off with fresh fruit or berries?

As poor as we were when I was a child, my mother always served something sweet after a festive dinner. Usually it was something she had prepared or baked. I formed the habit of the “sweet tooth” which is OK until the years and less activity result in increased personal weight.

Thanks, Jeff, I think I would be happier changing or modifying that habit.

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Was talking to my old pal Dean this morning and we were talking about the opinion, “How lucky we are, we have a purpose in life, to help others who want to be helped.”

When my wife and I lost everything, our home, apartments, duplex, investments and starting over, I purchased a piece of poster board from an art store and created my/our future, complete with pictures and printed goals. Doing a triathlon, (completed 3), run a marathon, (completed 55), buy a house, (we have a nice home), finished the book, (published in the U.S., in French in Canada, China and Europe) and on and on.

Stopped running when I turned 80, ran Chicago Marathon.

Found the poster board, going to do another poster board.

The first thing I printed was to do a half marathon to celebrate my 90th birthday in a little over two years.

Last week, I started up again, on the indoor track and walked 1/20th of a mile, today two laps more.

I had drawn a circle in my mind, I put the Seahawks, in my mind outside the circle when they started their message of hatred and our coach supported them by locking arms when some were kneeling.

I drew a 3 inch circle on my new poster board, and the first entry was the Seahawks, one slight difference this time, I put the Seahawks “inside” the circle, alongside the coach. No resentments or hatred on the visual!

A brilliant man taught me recently, “Never concern yourself with anything or anyone “you can’t do anything about.”

Putting the coach and the Seahawks outside my circle doesn’t define the coach or the Seahawks, it defines me, and inability to accept something I can’t do anything about, really defines me. God, “Grant me the serenity to accept the things I can’t change”, etc.

When I get wound up in whatever is happening in Washington, D.C., or China, or North Korea, etc., after I have voted, it doesn’t define them, it only defines me.

An effective person doesn’t focus on “the problem” they focus on the opportunities.

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When Jim Collins wrote about the Level Five Leadership, our Roundtable members, were interested.

The Level Five executives who displayed very high levels of determination. The “iron will” that helped create the success, is a skill that can be learned.

I wanted the success, the achievement, not for the recognition or money, but the great feeling of accomplishment. Those of us who are older, have had such experiences and gained so much knowledge that it seems a shame to take it to the grave rather than share it with someone. There is a percentage of people who would eagerly receive the experience, if I would share it.

There is always the element of chance, and sometimes luck, but we have a personal impact on the outcome of any endeavors based on our personal will.

You couple that with deep personal humility.

I knew there was some personal will in quitting smoking and all tobacco, drinking, losing 50#’s for my first of 55 marathons, three triathlons and much more.

But, the ego still creeps in. Seems deep humility, avoiding center stage, the main spotlight and becoming non-judgmental is a different journey and now has a higher priority.

As I substitute love and gratitude for my quest for recognition, I seem much happier.

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"The Influence of Great Friends"

Show me a young person’s friends and I will share some insights to their future.

At age 42, I had never run any distance.

Four of us started talking a little about starting to run. Bill Bump, Gary Tomlinson, Gary Ratzlaff and I were in those early discussions.

One-by-one they started running on the track, indoor at the Washington Athletic Club. Twenty laps to a mile. I followed.

One-by-one they started running outside. I was the last to start running, last one to go outside. First time outside I fell on the concrete and skinned my hands and knees.

We kept increasing the miles and one-by-one they started running marathons.

Again, I was in the last to finish a marathon.

I bought a training manual from the track coach at Seattle Pacific University.

I completed the one year training and finished my first marathon in 4 hours and 5 minutes.

I ran 54 more including New York, 5 times and Boston. I got into Boston in the lottery, held for the 100th running.

I did 3 triathlons, not the ironman and a couple helped me summit Mt. Rainier.

I ran my last marathon when I turned 80, all thanks to the incredible men (and later women) who let me run with them.

I was truly blessed to be accepted with real Eagles.

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After doing “this work” for over sixty-years, many feel I should retire, close-up shop, go home, close the drapes and wait for it to get late. I can do it and possibly live comfortably with my wife.

The tone of some of this message may communicate that I am “feeling superior” to those who retire. No, not at all, everyone should retire when they want; it is none of my business what the other person does.

I have had an incredible life, while still working, become a 12 handicap golfer; good skeet shooter 25 of 25, OK trap shooter, good big bore shooter, reloaded big bore and shotgun, climbed mountains, completed marathons, 3 triathlons, ran a sport boat for years, U.S. Coast Guard licensed captain of a charter boat. Served on countless boards and president of organizations. Taught one class per quarter at the University of Washington, lectured at Seattle University, went parachuting, (not sky diving), helped start a halfway house that now does over $80 million per year, Cub Master and on and on.

So, I have had a rich 60 plus years.

Now, about continuing to help others.

Because I have continued to study, teach, consult, run a consulting practice, served on non-profits and many abilities that taught and strengthened me as a man. As a teacher and a leader, consultant, I have 22 more years of learning, teaching and experience to pass on to individuals emerging in their life and career.

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There is a wonderful song on the Barbra Streisand CD, “People who need people are the luckiest people, in the world.” I was listening to her rendition recently and then realized I am one of those people, and I know it.

I worked out at a club near my office daily.

I was 42 when I realized it was time to be more active in exercise. I had played handball, squash and racquetball but there were many mornings my playing partner would sleep in and I was without anyone to play with.

I made a decision to learn to run, for weight control and cardio.

I went up to the indoor track where I work out and shuffled around for 2 laps, 20 laps is a mile.

Another friend showed up, then another.

Within a couple of months there were 5-6 regular runners, it kept increasing.

After a few months, two men went outside, then two more, and again after two more months, and finally I was running outside, alone. First time, I missed a curb, mid-block and went down hard.

After a few months outside, one-by-one they increased the distance and started running marathons.

I was the last of the group, to run a marathon, and then ran a total of 55 marathons, the last one at 80 years old.

Learned how to swim and completed 3 triathlons, not an Iron Man tho.

The runners group still meets at Christmas, they come from California and cities in between to enjoy the bond, the fellowship.

Most of us are so aware of the fact that it was the sense of belonging that made it all possible. I lost over 40 lbs. and pretty much kept it off!

The energy, the power, the accountability and the inspiration is what I really received, plus one more; they filled my need for wonderful people in my life.

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